She’s seated comfortably in the busy lounge of a five-star hotel in Delhi, which she is visiting for a shoot for the second season of the Amazon Prime Video hit Made in Heaven, and though she is away from baby Sappho, all of 18 months, she is relishing it, as she should, the idea of a time-out to meet her brother. A pregnant woman is “either the crazy hormonal bitch who needs to park herself on the sofa for nine months and eat a lot of junk, or the magical, maternal, filtered Instagram mum, who is perpetually photographed in soft sunlight falling on her newly found curves.” But in actuality, says Kalki, motherhood means exploring a new part of yourself, giving up what you’re doing, re-evaluating what is important and deciding how you bring up your child, but there is such little education on it.
As Kalki writes, pregnancy is usually portrayed in stereotypes. And you wonder is everyone going through it, or is it just me?” More than that, she says, parenting and motherhood are pitched to us as such rites of passage and the ones who are not doing it are portrayed as outliers that it is difficult to stand out.Īs a result, there is little understanding or appreciation for how it’s done. “We have such few spaces left to talk in, to laugh in or cry in,” she says, “We need to do it, otherwise pregnancy is such a silent, invisible and solitary experience. As she writes in her book, “Nobody told me to prepare for an alien invasion that would turn my insides out and transform me into a human incubating system of toxic gases and chemical imbalances.” The other aspect of motherhood is the societal structure, says Kalki, which pits women against each other. “I wouldn’t have remembered it if I hadn’t journaled it,” says Kalki, 39. Over the years, she has embodied the unexpected: speaking fluent Tamil, looking perfectly chic as a Frenchwoman should and being able to inhabit characters as diverse as a girlfriend whose Hermes handbag is her most identifiable characteristic in Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara (2011) and a disabled, bisexual woman in the stirring Margarita with a Straw (2014).Īsk most women about details of giving birth and they will blank it out. As the child of French hippies who made India, specifically Tamil Nadu, their home in the 1970s, she first burst onto our screens as the Lolita-like Chanda in former husband Anurag Kashyap’s millennial reimagining of Devdas, Dev.D (2009). But then Kalki has never been one to colour within the lines. How many mommy memoirs begin with abortions? Or talk about miscarriages? Or about loss of libido? Not many. The Elephant in the Womb (illustrated by Valeriya Polyanychko Penguin 256 pages ₹ 399) begins with the two abortions Kalki has had, which underlines the choice that women have but rarely exercise. So welcome Kalki Koechlin to the difficult art of truth-telling and thank you for your honesty.
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